分类目录归档:心智心性

墙上的44句话

阮一峰的博客上叙说了这样一个有意思的艺术品,芬兰一艺术家在一面墙上一周写一句话,持续了44周。黑白是最简单的颜色,文字是最简单的图画。大道至简,看着让人觉得舒服,话儿说得也漂亮。

 

Without a sense of identity, there can be no real struggle.

如果没有清晰的自我意识,也就不存在真正的抗争。

出处:Paulo Freire, Pedagogy of the Oppressed (1970)

最近开始重新读那些曾经深刻影响我的书,《卓有成效人士的七个习惯》算是一本,同时读的还有《传习录》。《卓》用一种典型的美国思维在启示我去重新发现自己,积极主动、以终为始、要事第一,说到底还是在“我”的层面。《传》对“立志”的撰述,让我一遍一遍去想“我是谁”“我要到哪里去”。知人者智,自知者明。

 

I want to keep smashing myself until I am whole.

我要不停地粉碎自己,直到变得完整。

出处:Elias Canetti, The Human Province (1973)

寻找自己的过程异样痛苦。依稀记得大二下学期的历程,那样的痛苦、万念俱灰,不断地怀疑、否定自己。但是,只有不断地磨砺,不断地浴火,才能完整。如果把这些当做磨难,那么一开始就输了;倒是把这些当做雕刻,才有终点。

 

We must travel in the direction of our fear.

我们恐惧的地方,就是应该探索的地方。

出处:John Berryman

说道寻找自己,其实最困难的倒不是过程,而是开始。未知给我们带来恐惧,而寻找未知的自己,约等同于面对恐惧。而一个困难只要不是那么明显,我们会选择性遗忘。这句话一下子让人想起了张德芬的《遇见未知的自己》,其实她的理论大抵是从《金刚经》发端,说的平实而已。

 

Pleasure may come from illusion, but happiness can come only of reality.

欢愉也许来自幻觉,但幸福只能来自现实。

出处:Nicolas Chamfort

责任产生幸福,这样的幸福必定是脚踏实地、一步一步而来。依然是《传习录》里那段经典的问答:

萧惠问死生之道。先生曰:“知昼夜即知死生。”问昼夜之道。曰:“知昼则知夜。”曰:“昼亦有所不知乎?”先生曰:“汝能知昼?懵懵而兴,蠢蠢而食,行不著,习不察,终日昏昏,只是梦昼。惟‘息有养,瞬有存’,此心惺惺明明,天理无一息间断,才是能知昼。这便是天德,便是通乎昼夜之道而知,更有什么死生?”

 

In the morning, there is meaning.

在早晨,你能找到意义。

出处:Gertrude Stein, Tender Buttons (1914)

说的形而上一点,我对这句话理解是——早晨是一日之始,很多时候我们走的远了,却忘记是为什么而出发。故而回到起点,才能发现真实,发现意义。说的切实一点,前日因为要field work,六点多比起床,早晨的静谧让人感觉甚好。而一日之计在于晨,早晨如同春天,让人觉得倍有希望。习惯了晚睡,是因为觉得夜深人静,但是有鸟叫的早晨不比黑暗的晚上差多少。而早晨让人觉得一天的希望已然开启。

一个人能让自己快乐, 是对自己,别人,甚至社会, 都特别负责任的一件事情。加油!

不跟随

 

我是谁?从哪来?到哪去?

越想成为什么,这些问题就会越大声。 

幸好我还能选择,还不是被动地接受。既然选择就要热爱,既然热爱就要坚持。

掌声多了,自己的声音才会更强。经历多了,以后才能看得更清。诱惑多了,对衷情的才会更坚定。

如果每个人的轨迹是一个螺旋,我不会无休止的扩散,而是沿着走过的路回到原点。 

只有这样,才能回答我开始的问题。

重要的不是能拥有什么,而是我真的需要什么。

我的真实,会为我证明自己。

 

这会儿在加班,manage一个公司或者说manage一份生意,其实和manage自己是一体的。虽然苦逼,但是真心感谢P&G,或许从来没有一把刻刀,可以如此锋利且击中要害,快准狠。

Go on!

日有所进

原文链接:http://zenhabits.net/feel/

 

我崇尚简约清静的生活,但是如果我们不能这样生活呢?我们是否注定了要焦虑、悲伤地生活?不!下面我就要跟你们分享一种改变你生活的方法。过去几个月来我尝试了这种方法,很有效!它将会让你:

         更关注当下;

         更融入你所从事的事情;

         更轻松地生活;

         更从容地面对未知的事物。

一个小方法带来了这么多好处,不算差吧?那我们一起来吧!

忙与闲

一般来说我们两种生活状态。平日我们会很忙;当然我们有一些琐碎的时间,那时候我们就闲下来了,好比旅游、海滩度假、SPA、公园闲逛的时候。当我们少一点思考,多一点对周遭的感触时,我们就闲了下来。我们沐浴着阳光,望云卷云舒,好似回到了童年时代。可我们现在却尽力让儿童变得成人化,以便他们更好地替企业主卖命。儿童长大了,成为我们现在的摸样。每周都疲于奔命,偶得闲暇。可互联网又占用了这一点点闲暇,我们沉溺其中,无视周遭的多彩世界。该怎么办才能像儿童般闲适,去感触每时每刻的美好生活?

只要你愿意,你就可以。

禅境

 

当你安闲时,我们可以感触到惠风和畅、旭日光芒、流水潺潺,我们欢乐开怀,我们享受大自然的多姿多彩。我们用感触代替思考,这种感触从身体的各端汇入脑海,让我们倍感轻松。

让我们再次尝试进入这种状态。你可能正面对着电脑或手机屏幕,你脑海里是互联网的虚拟世界,但你的躯体却在真实的物理世界。如果你坐着,那你可以感触到椅子。你的背可能弓着,手指触摸着键盘或鼠标。你周围的空气是冷是暖?你注意到周围的声音么?摸着你的下巴,感受你的呼吸。当你把你的注意力放在你的感触上,你进入了放松的状态。尽管不是完全放松,但是感觉和你度假的放松完全一样。

当你学会了这个办法,你可以随时随地使用。如果你在冲凉,感受水流,水的温度,水的声响。如果你在吃饭,感受每一口的不一样,闻食物的香味,感受你的手把事物送到嘴里的过程。把它当工作一般对待。你可以在打电话、回邮件、开会途中,注意你的感受、身边的色彩、人性的声音、你的呼吸……当你在家做家务、做饭的时候,你也可以做。当你整日都去关注这些点滴,你就可以一直享受这样的状态。

而它会改变所有你做的事情——乾坤大挪移。你从忙忙碌碌到关注当下,时时抱怨到享受每时每刻。

生活需要你的关注,而非你的漠视。

 

I’m a big proponent of slowing down, simplifying, doing less, and being less busy … but what if you can’t?

What if your life can’t be made less busy — are you doomed to a life of anxiety and unhappiness?

No. I’m going to share with you a very simple tool that might just transform your life. It’s something I’ve been trying in the last few months, and I can attest that it works brilliantly.

This one little method will help you to:

  • Be more present, so life doesn’t rush past you without you noticing.
  • Enjoy every activity you do more, so life is better all the time.
  • Feel more relaxed, so every day is as good as a vacation.
  • Be ready to handle anything that comes your way.

Not bad for a very tiny method, no? Let’s dive in.

Busy vs. relaxed

Normally we have two different modes in life. There’s the busy of our everyday lives, and then there’s the relaxed mode, which happens when we have some unstructured time: vacation, a day at the beach, a spa getaway, some time in the park with the kids.

Relaxed mode is one where we perhaps think less and feel more. We just soak in the sun, the sounds, the sensations. This is a child-like time, because it’s the mode that young children are in the most. We do our best to train kids not to be like this, so they can be good workers when they grow up and serve our corporate masters.

And so we grow up to be in busy mode most of the week, and if we’re lucky we get a day or two, maybe only an hour or two of relaxed mode. When the Internet sucks us in, we have less relaxed mode because the Internet keeps us in our minds, and we forget about the physical world around us.

How can we change this? How can we bring the child-like relaxed, sensory mode back into our everyday lives, not just during breaks and meditation/yoga time and vacations?

It’s not that difficult, if you practice.

The Zen State

When we are in relaxed mode, we notice the sensations of the wind and sun, the sounds of water and laughter, the brilliant colors of nature, the smiles around us, the grass or sand between our toes. We are feeling instead of thinking. The sensations of our bodies flow into our minds, and it makes us relaxed, happy.

We can re-learn this mode of being with practice. Do it now. You’re reading a computer or mobile device screen, so your mind is in the world of the Internet … but your body is in the physical world. If you’re sitting, your butt can feel the chair. Your back might be a bit hunched. Your fingers are on a keyboard or mouse. Is the air around you cold or warm? Are there sounds you can notice? Is your jaw clenched? Notice your breathing.

When you put your focus into physcial sensations, you are entering relaxed mode instead of thinking mode. It’s not that you’re completely relaxed, but you’re in the same state of mind as the times you are relaxed, like yoga or the beach or lazing away a Sunday in bed.

Once you learn to do this, you can do it any time. In fact, all the time.

If you’re taking a shower, feel the water running down you, soak in the temperature and the sound of running water. If you’re eating, taste every little nuance of the food, smell the food, feel the texture in your mouth, feel the movement of your hand going to your mouth.

Do this as you work, as you talk on the phone or respond to emails or walk to a meeting or drive to an appointment, noticing the sensations on your skin, the colors around you, the sounds of humanity, your breath coming in and leaving you. Do this at home, as you do chores or prepare food or clean up or get ready for work. Do this throughout your day, and you will be in a constant state of relaxation and enjoyment.

It will transform everything you do, if you do it. It will turn busy-ness into being present, harriedness into enjoyment.

Life will be lived, instead of ignored.

有史以来最好的拖延症贴士

前言:这篇文章在“译言”这个category,本意是想翻译FMCG行业观察,然后做成一个系列的。奈何专业文章翻译得索然无味,最近http://zenhabits.net这个哥们儿的文章又让我提起了翻译的兴致。尽管孤居彭城,然后诗书作伴,也是幸事。

原文链接:http://zenhabits.net/tada/

当你看到这篇文章,脑海中闪过的念头可能是——我来晚了。但当你觉得晚了的时候,恰恰是最早的时候。让我们一起来修习吧!尽管它会花费你两分钟的时间,但它带给你的改变会节约你大量的时间。我之前曾写过终止拖延症的书,现在我又发现了一个简单易行的办法来解决这个问题。开始尝试吧!

首先,确定你今天要做的事情中最重要的一件。接着,开始着手做这件事,哪怕只做小小的一部分。万事开头难,迈出第一步意义深长。

撇开分心的事物。不再想其他任何事物,这周遭只有你和你手上的事情。

坐下来,全神贯注于迈出第一步。

不离自性。你可能急于去检查邮箱、刷微博,或是玩游戏、打电话,以及其他的事情,警惕这些欲望。

端坐如常。你只需警惕这些欲望,任它们去吧。欲望来势勇猛,但一会儿就褪去,如波浪一般。

同时警惕你的大脑,它可能试图指挥你不做手上的工作,让这些自生的杂念流逝吧。

而今你只需要迈出第一步。

迈出第一步,剩下的就是水到渠成。

 

Your first thought as you look at this article will be, “I’ll read this later.”

But don’t. Let the urge to switch to a new task pass. Read this now.

It’ll take you two minutes. It’ll save you countless hours.

I’ve written the book on ending procrastination, but I’ve since come up with a very simple technique for beating everyone’s favorite nemesis. It is incredibly easy, but as with anything, it takes a little practice.

Try it now:

Identify the most important thing you have to do today.

Decide to do just the first little part of it — just the first minute, or even 30 seconds of it. Getting started is the only thing in the world that matters.

Clear away distractions. Turn everything off. Close all programs. There should just be you, and your task.

Sit there, and focus on getting started. Not doing the whole task, just starting.

Pay attention to your mind, as it starts to have urges to switch to another task. You will have urges to check email or Facebook or Twitter or your favorite website. You will want to play a game or make a call or do another task. Notice these urges.

But don’t move. Notice the urges, but sit still, and let them pass. Urges build up in intensity, then pass, like a wave. Let each one pass.

Notice also your mind trying to justify not doing the task. Also let these self-rationalizing thoughts pass.

Now just take one small action to get started. As tiny a step as possible.

Get started, and the rest will flow.

人之四种

 

今朝和周愚、李施、姜东星四个人回了一次浦口,一晃已经两年了。周老板一如既往地犀利,不过不再是那个为不值得的女孩纸的二锅头少年咯;李施安静了很多,依旧那么有范儿;东星变得好玩了很多;我…我…还是那个小孩子么?

记不起从前杯酒,我又想起了清人顾贞观的这句,整首词写得悲情回肠。

昨天和南京的同事一起,Sean看到我说,不到半年的时光,你成熟很多。晚间住侨鸿皇冠假日的套房,终于睡了一个安静安稳的觉。我万分珍惜在宿舍的每一晚,奈何每次回去都要帮他们倒已经发霉的垃圾,各种打游戏的吵闹。早晨我会早醒,看着安静的校园,人来人往。夏天到了,学校成了肉池,各种腿如削葱根。

上面的话像是跟某一个人说,而这个人是谁,却不得而知。

午间,去浦苑吃了一顿,依旧好吃的土豆泥,椰汁凉糕已经在菜单上消失了。一边缅怀我们四个特立独行的青春岁月,一边睥睨万物。周老板说了一个分层观,觉得不错。说人分四种,一种是知道what的人,这类人就该去上《开心辞典》,属于最最下等的,所谓文盲与非文盲的界限就在于此。第二种是知道how的人,大凡在中国的教育体制下的优秀学生,大都知道how,应试教育体制下一批又一批知道how的人成了各种生产线(广义)上的制造工人。第三种是知道why的人,这种人显然稀缺,在这类人知道自己所做所为的”来龙“。说道来龙,必然会说道”去脉“。这便是第四种人,这种人知道未来在where,高瞻远瞩,指挥着一群知道why的人不断前进;进而知道why的人带领一群知道how的人去实现,去到达彼岸。

睡觉咯,不知道为什么,有一种小开心。