如筏喻者

 

在读《活法》的时候,我万分欣喜。觉得稻盛和夫的观点(其实源于融儒释道的由王阳明一手创建的心学)真正宽慰我心。可能follow your heart是西方的智慧,Jobs、李开复显然是非常好的样本。但是,东方也有东方的智慧——吃饭就是吃饭,睡觉就是睡觉。一切万法,不离自性;不离自性,即是福田。

这么说,显然有些学究气而且让人费解。简单来说,就是西方鼓励我们追求我们所喜欢的。而东方认为,你不喜欢,很有可能是因为你做不好。你真正关注当下,做好当下,从中即会发现无穷的乐趣。

于是乎,这些就是我入职以来各种suffer的源泉——你做不好而已。人有痛苦,是因为自己不够好。于是,在宁波,你不爽是因为你搞不定一个月5万的销量;你各种想回学校除了你想念学校的妹纸,其实更重要的原因是——你在这块土地混得顺手。在苏州,你各种不爽,你觉得不value,你各种想跳槽,原因是——你handle不了你的老板。在徐州,你抱怨难吃的饭菜,你各种效率低,原因也很简单——这个月1600万的销量你搞不定。

而现在,你可以坐下来,从容不迫,告诉市场部经理、分销商总经理,下面三个月我们要focus在哪些平台,我们的target是什么,我们用什么样的strategy去分别搞定各个平台,我们几个项目的投资回报率预估是多少,我们对员工KPI考核是哪些,我们要求IT部门跟踪哪些数据,我们可以指定什么的奖励措施激励销售代表,我们plan什么样的计划从中有效提升员工能力。你也开始慢慢学习如何利用手上可以掌控的1000万基金,设计市场推广计划,同时“控制”分销商上百人的团队。

而我同样期待,我可以云淡风轻,早上我可以喝粥剥鸡蛋,晚餐可以买菜做饭洗碗。我还能去书店坐会儿,看一会儿义务为小孩子辅导英语的老师上课(这是我觉得徐州最文化的角落)。或许,我可以写一点扯淡的文章,告诉你们我的最近,告诉后来人我走过的弯路;亦或是研究一会儿我的Ubuntu,去忽悠小盆友;捣鼓一会儿Powerpoint、Excel,然后在你们面前秀一下;或者看会儿闲书,和远方的你们聊会儿天……

于是乎,我相信,日子就这么一步一步坚定地走下去……我开始愈发完善,同时合理利用自己的优点,桥都坚固,路都光明。而那时候,如果你不失本心,你还记得你最初的梦想,我想是时候follow your heart的时候了。

知我说法,如筏喻者,法尚应舍,何况非法。

本来我不觉得悲伤的

 

话说今天是中秋,细数过去的几个中秋(我真的喜欢怀念过去)。大一的时候,参加神马同乡会,看着同乡妹纸被无良非同乡学长泡,其中一哥们儿当场喝躺了,于是我第一次背男生回宿舍(当然我不甚宽阔的肩膀最后未能发挥作用,大家伙儿一起抬的)。

 

大二的中秋已经记不得了。大三大四的中秋有没有回家我也不晓得,貌似是回去的了。我经常会跟一些相关不相关的人扯中国传统节日,一是普及中国传统文化知识,二是在一些读书有一点点少、长得有一点点好看的女孩子面前显摆,却忘记了一个人越是缺少什么越喜欢显摆什么,三就是在这些扯淡中意淫和理想mm按照传统度过中秋佳节的情景。介于大家都知道,中秋和美女(嫦娥)有关,我对这个节的意淫基本就停留在美色的层面。

 

既有美色,怎缺美食。对于月饼,广式月饼大行其道的今天,苏式月饼显得那么稀缺而珍贵,显然两者共同点——不好吃。传统的黄桥居民是吃——涨烧饼。一种大如满月、两边薄中间厚、金黄色的饼子,形似满月。一般先用来祭拜月亮童鞋,然后再切了分食,算是人间美味咯。

 

既有美女美食,来点游戏更加好咯。一般祭拜月亮哥们儿,摆一供桌在门外,放上水果(必定有柿子)、涨烧饼、菱角、莲藕等,朝着月亮叩首上香,人便回屋。接下来的好戏是孩子们的——偷秋。或结伴成群、或单枪匹马,对象便是供桌上的美食。大人则装作看不见,按风俗,被孩童偷得越多越好。

 

而这些都已经远去,我脚踩着农耕文化的尾声、唱着挽歌来到了城市。从阳台伸出头来,拼命地找月亮。

 

晚上听到这首歌,在远方的你们,珍重!

日有所进

原文链接:http://zenhabits.net/feel/

 

我崇尚简约清静的生活,但是如果我们不能这样生活呢?我们是否注定了要焦虑、悲伤地生活?不!下面我就要跟你们分享一种改变你生活的方法。过去几个月来我尝试了这种方法,很有效!它将会让你:

         更关注当下;

         更融入你所从事的事情;

         更轻松地生活;

         更从容地面对未知的事物。

一个小方法带来了这么多好处,不算差吧?那我们一起来吧!

忙与闲

一般来说我们两种生活状态。平日我们会很忙;当然我们有一些琐碎的时间,那时候我们就闲下来了,好比旅游、海滩度假、SPA、公园闲逛的时候。当我们少一点思考,多一点对周遭的感触时,我们就闲了下来。我们沐浴着阳光,望云卷云舒,好似回到了童年时代。可我们现在却尽力让儿童变得成人化,以便他们更好地替企业主卖命。儿童长大了,成为我们现在的摸样。每周都疲于奔命,偶得闲暇。可互联网又占用了这一点点闲暇,我们沉溺其中,无视周遭的多彩世界。该怎么办才能像儿童般闲适,去感触每时每刻的美好生活?

只要你愿意,你就可以。

禅境

 

当你安闲时,我们可以感触到惠风和畅、旭日光芒、流水潺潺,我们欢乐开怀,我们享受大自然的多姿多彩。我们用感触代替思考,这种感触从身体的各端汇入脑海,让我们倍感轻松。

让我们再次尝试进入这种状态。你可能正面对着电脑或手机屏幕,你脑海里是互联网的虚拟世界,但你的躯体却在真实的物理世界。如果你坐着,那你可以感触到椅子。你的背可能弓着,手指触摸着键盘或鼠标。你周围的空气是冷是暖?你注意到周围的声音么?摸着你的下巴,感受你的呼吸。当你把你的注意力放在你的感触上,你进入了放松的状态。尽管不是完全放松,但是感觉和你度假的放松完全一样。

当你学会了这个办法,你可以随时随地使用。如果你在冲凉,感受水流,水的温度,水的声响。如果你在吃饭,感受每一口的不一样,闻食物的香味,感受你的手把事物送到嘴里的过程。把它当工作一般对待。你可以在打电话、回邮件、开会途中,注意你的感受、身边的色彩、人性的声音、你的呼吸……当你在家做家务、做饭的时候,你也可以做。当你整日都去关注这些点滴,你就可以一直享受这样的状态。

而它会改变所有你做的事情——乾坤大挪移。你从忙忙碌碌到关注当下,时时抱怨到享受每时每刻。

生活需要你的关注,而非你的漠视。

 

I’m a big proponent of slowing down, simplifying, doing less, and being less busy … but what if you can’t?

What if your life can’t be made less busy — are you doomed to a life of anxiety and unhappiness?

No. I’m going to share with you a very simple tool that might just transform your life. It’s something I’ve been trying in the last few months, and I can attest that it works brilliantly.

This one little method will help you to:

  • Be more present, so life doesn’t rush past you without you noticing.
  • Enjoy every activity you do more, so life is better all the time.
  • Feel more relaxed, so every day is as good as a vacation.
  • Be ready to handle anything that comes your way.

Not bad for a very tiny method, no? Let’s dive in.

Busy vs. relaxed

Normally we have two different modes in life. There’s the busy of our everyday lives, and then there’s the relaxed mode, which happens when we have some unstructured time: vacation, a day at the beach, a spa getaway, some time in the park with the kids.

Relaxed mode is one where we perhaps think less and feel more. We just soak in the sun, the sounds, the sensations. This is a child-like time, because it’s the mode that young children are in the most. We do our best to train kids not to be like this, so they can be good workers when they grow up and serve our corporate masters.

And so we grow up to be in busy mode most of the week, and if we’re lucky we get a day or two, maybe only an hour or two of relaxed mode. When the Internet sucks us in, we have less relaxed mode because the Internet keeps us in our minds, and we forget about the physical world around us.

How can we change this? How can we bring the child-like relaxed, sensory mode back into our everyday lives, not just during breaks and meditation/yoga time and vacations?

It’s not that difficult, if you practice.

The Zen State

When we are in relaxed mode, we notice the sensations of the wind and sun, the sounds of water and laughter, the brilliant colors of nature, the smiles around us, the grass or sand between our toes. We are feeling instead of thinking. The sensations of our bodies flow into our minds, and it makes us relaxed, happy.

We can re-learn this mode of being with practice. Do it now. You’re reading a computer or mobile device screen, so your mind is in the world of the Internet … but your body is in the physical world. If you’re sitting, your butt can feel the chair. Your back might be a bit hunched. Your fingers are on a keyboard or mouse. Is the air around you cold or warm? Are there sounds you can notice? Is your jaw clenched? Notice your breathing.

When you put your focus into physcial sensations, you are entering relaxed mode instead of thinking mode. It’s not that you’re completely relaxed, but you’re in the same state of mind as the times you are relaxed, like yoga or the beach or lazing away a Sunday in bed.

Once you learn to do this, you can do it any time. In fact, all the time.

If you’re taking a shower, feel the water running down you, soak in the temperature and the sound of running water. If you’re eating, taste every little nuance of the food, smell the food, feel the texture in your mouth, feel the movement of your hand going to your mouth.

Do this as you work, as you talk on the phone or respond to emails or walk to a meeting or drive to an appointment, noticing the sensations on your skin, the colors around you, the sounds of humanity, your breath coming in and leaving you. Do this at home, as you do chores or prepare food or clean up or get ready for work. Do this throughout your day, and you will be in a constant state of relaxation and enjoyment.

It will transform everything you do, if you do it. It will turn busy-ness into being present, harriedness into enjoyment.

Life will be lived, instead of ignored.

有史以来最好的拖延症贴士

前言:这篇文章在“译言”这个category,本意是想翻译FMCG行业观察,然后做成一个系列的。奈何专业文章翻译得索然无味,最近http://zenhabits.net这个哥们儿的文章又让我提起了翻译的兴致。尽管孤居彭城,然后诗书作伴,也是幸事。

原文链接:http://zenhabits.net/tada/

当你看到这篇文章,脑海中闪过的念头可能是——我来晚了。但当你觉得晚了的时候,恰恰是最早的时候。让我们一起来修习吧!尽管它会花费你两分钟的时间,但它带给你的改变会节约你大量的时间。我之前曾写过终止拖延症的书,现在我又发现了一个简单易行的办法来解决这个问题。开始尝试吧!

首先,确定你今天要做的事情中最重要的一件。接着,开始着手做这件事,哪怕只做小小的一部分。万事开头难,迈出第一步意义深长。

撇开分心的事物。不再想其他任何事物,这周遭只有你和你手上的事情。

坐下来,全神贯注于迈出第一步。

不离自性。你可能急于去检查邮箱、刷微博,或是玩游戏、打电话,以及其他的事情,警惕这些欲望。

端坐如常。你只需警惕这些欲望,任它们去吧。欲望来势勇猛,但一会儿就褪去,如波浪一般。

同时警惕你的大脑,它可能试图指挥你不做手上的工作,让这些自生的杂念流逝吧。

而今你只需要迈出第一步。

迈出第一步,剩下的就是水到渠成。

 

Your first thought as you look at this article will be, “I’ll read this later.”

But don’t. Let the urge to switch to a new task pass. Read this now.

It’ll take you two minutes. It’ll save you countless hours.

I’ve written the book on ending procrastination, but I’ve since come up with a very simple technique for beating everyone’s favorite nemesis. It is incredibly easy, but as with anything, it takes a little practice.

Try it now:

Identify the most important thing you have to do today.

Decide to do just the first little part of it — just the first minute, or even 30 seconds of it. Getting started is the only thing in the world that matters.

Clear away distractions. Turn everything off. Close all programs. There should just be you, and your task.

Sit there, and focus on getting started. Not doing the whole task, just starting.

Pay attention to your mind, as it starts to have urges to switch to another task. You will have urges to check email or Facebook or Twitter or your favorite website. You will want to play a game or make a call or do another task. Notice these urges.

But don’t move. Notice the urges, but sit still, and let them pass. Urges build up in intensity, then pass, like a wave. Let each one pass.

Notice also your mind trying to justify not doing the task. Also let these self-rationalizing thoughts pass.

Now just take one small action to get started. As tiny a step as possible.

Get started, and the rest will flow.

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